Each of us has a somewhat mysterious inner power that could be called a “soul force.” In my experience, our soul force feels unstoppable, and it carries with it our uniqueness and what we care the most about. You could say it is the most essential part of us, that which we cannot be “talked out of,” that which demands expression.
Many people believe that this soul force, if it even exists, is not necessarily related to our work in the world. I am proposing just the opposite: that if we are to find our deepest fulfillment at work and achieve the highest potential in our career, in whatever field that might be, we need to engage and unleash this power.
What does it feel like to “work from our soul”? In my experience, there is a sense of drawing on a source of pure potential that is self-renewing and feels electrically charged. I don’t feel like I am working from a thin and limited layer of thoughts or strategy, but instead, there is a sense of being tapped into a charged energetic system of support and creativity.
Your Belly, Heart, and Head
For many years, I practiced somatic meditation, a type of meditation where we practice (among other things) inhabiting the inner space of the body and developing what’s known as interoception (being aware of internal bodily sensations). One of the things I discovered was the felt experience of three energy centers—the belly, heart, and head—that are referenced in many different systems of spiritual practice, and how these three centers can help us in engaging our soul force at work.
This might sound esoteric, but I actually think these three inner energy centers (called the “three brains” or “tan tiens” in Chinese medicine or “elixir fields” in certain types of qigong) are very discoverable and accessible to people who start to turn their attention inward.
To say more, when our belly center is open and energy is flowing through it in an unimpeded way, we can feel a sense of grounded power. We feel anchored and sense that we can weather the storms of life like a strong tree that is rooted deeply in the earth.
When our heart center is open, we can feel a sense of love streaming from us in every direction. This stream carries with it our care and concern for others. You could even say that we sense a stream of well wishes pouring out from our heart. Our work becomes imbued with a motivation to be of service to others and our world.
And when the center of our head is open, energy and information flow in through the top of our head in a way that often feels, at least in my experience, quite mysterious. New ideas come to us that can feel sparkly, such that even we are surprised by what is occurring to us. We become endlessly innovative in our work.
The Power of Letting Go
What does it take to awaken the intelligence of these three “inner brains” and allow the full power of our soul force to stream through these three energy centers? In my experience, what is required is not what you might expect. We don’t need to add anything to us. What is needed is a whole lot of letting go.
What are we letting go of? All of the ways we block ourselves, all of the ways we hold back. We are letting go of all of the ways we seek approval and are twisted up trying to appeal to others to be liked by them, the many ways we try to find acceptance and success via the unspoken and sometimes spoken rules of the status quo. We let go of twisting ourselves to fit a norm that doesn’t fit the truth of who we are. We let go of the mental construct of who we are so we can be the unique expression of the truth of who we are.
One year at Sounds True, we decided to give T-shirts out to the staff as part of our holiday gifting. Not a particularly original idea, but something we thought people would like. And our creative director put this slogan on the T-shirt: “Sounds True: Here for the Weird.” And I loved it.
Now, not everyone likes the word “weird”… but I do. A chapter was once written about me for a book on bringing your whole self to work, and the authors called it “Tami Simon: Flying Her Freak Flag.” I didn’t mind the use of the word “freak” either. The reason is that these are just words in popular culture that mean someone is willing to be themselves in all of their uniqueness and eccentricities. And that courage to step forward and be a brave truth-teller is something that I value.
Recently, I was in a discussion with a spiritual teacher about how interesting it is that we don’t become a blob of paste-like oneness when we drop deeply into what some people refer to as the “field of being,” the boundless, awake awareness that we share. Instead, we often become more uniquely expressive and can even appear a bit quirky. He shared his observation that it is our ego-construct, the veneer of “I’ve got it together,” that keeps us looking like copycats of others. When we allow that ego construct to lose its presentational grip, and perhaps even drop away, we make room for the emergence of our soul force, the innermost part of ourselves, to shine forth. We liberate our own “weird.”
As a leader of an organization, one of the things I have noticed is that when I present and speak from this innermost place without a lot of self-censorship, it naturally invites others to do the same. It is as if a “permission field” has been established. The company founder is telling it like it is—talking about what she learned in therapy this week, or something that occurred when talking with her wife (of the same sex), or a discovery that came through a sleepless night—and this sets up a new norm. This organization is actually a place where I don’t need to wear a mask at work; my truth-telling and uniqueness are welcome here. And this liberates a tremendous amount of energy and, dare I say, “soul power.”
What’s Your Genius Zone?
Several years ago, as the CEO at Sounds True, I found myself having difficulty figuring out how to best structure our organization (as our direct-to-consumer digital business began to grow rapidly with a different set of infrastructure needs from our traditional publishing business). I decided to hire an organizational consultant, Lex Sisney, the founder of Organizational Physics, whose expertise is helping midsize companies design to scale.
To my surprise, Lex started his assessment of Sounds True’s structural needs by having me do a deep-dive review of whether or not I was working in what he calls one’s “genius zone.” As I have come to understand Lex’s approach, part of what he believes contributes to organizational flourishing (and the ability to scale) is when people are in job functions that make the best use of their natural capacities and passions.
In a way, this seems utterly obvious. Like any good sporting team, you want people in the positions where they have the most natural affinity and talent. And when you have a whole team of people working in their genius zones, you have a much greater likelihood of having a winning team.
And yet as a founder, I have always had the attitude of “I will do whatever it takes. This isn’t about being in a ‘genius zone’; this is about getting done what needs to be done. All work is not enjoyable anyway, and just buck up and do the next thing needed.” This sounds very dutiful, and it is, but it is not the stance that creates the most high-functioning team, nor the most joy, nor the most soul engagement at work.
About a year and a half ago, I did an exercise where I went through my calendar for several weeks in a row and numbered every scheduled meeting on a 1-to-10 scale in terms of how excited I was for the meeting to take place. A very obvious pattern emerged: about half of the meetings in my calendar received the number 2 or 3, and about half of the meetings were an 8 or a 9 or even a 10.
The events in the calendar that received a high score related to interviews I was hosting, new partnerships that were being formed, and working directly with authors on new projects. The meetings that received a low score had to do with the business’s strategic execution in terms of finance, operations, and the coordination of various departments. This simple exercise presented a clear picture: I needed to shift my role and pass on a whole set of responsibilities so I could be free to focus on and expand the parts of my work that were exciting to me.
We have this notion that we need to trade what we really care about in order to make money. In a conversation with Rha Goddess, author of the book The Calling, I asked her about this. She said something to the effect of, “Why wouldn’t you earn the most money in your career doing what you are uniquely good at, what you excel at, what you uniquely have the ability to contribute?”
Her words landed. What if our greatest career achievement can only come from working in our area of natural genius, from letting go of all the ways we hold ourselves back and bringing our full soul force to work?
I believe that when we do, we find fulfillment at work. And also in life. And then, when our days come to an end, we find ourselves at peace, hands open and empty. We gave away all that we were given.
In support of your journey,
Tami Simon
Thank you, Tami. That was beautiful. This really struck a chord in me, as I also experienced the love under the surface this morning. As I was running with my young dog (5 months old), a wonderful German Sheppard, in a traffic-free area, it quite unexpectedly took off to greet a man and his little child coming out from a cottage by the road. Even though my dog is very kind and calm, the man was visibly annoyed by this incident, not because he didn’t approve of the dog, but because it wasn’t on a leash. “We have many deer around here, and just last week one of them ran to its death, chased by dogs. Soon they will have their little calves – and if you care about animals at all, you must please keep your dog on a leash.” I did feel like explaining that my dog was under control (or that was what I thought!) and that he never had showed any interest in chasing deer in the forest as we had encountered them earlier. “Yes, he is nice and all, but his instinct are getting stronger and you can’t be sure of him from now on. One fatal mistake can be enough. Would you really like to be responsible for a deer dying while hanging on a fence?” “Ok,” I replied, feeling quite embarrassed, “I do agree with you, and I will keep him on a leash from now on.” The conversation went on for a little bit, and we said “Goodbye” on almost friendly terms. As I continued my run a feeling of gratefulness filled my heart, and the incident, to me, was a gentle, though humiliating, warning and an act of love. The quite respectful manner in which the man warned me, made me really open up to his message. I had long been slightly in doubt of how much freedom to give my dog, but now I could see clearly that it was time to “tighten the rope a bit”, to protect us both from an accident with possibly a heartbreaking outcome. I even felt my dog being grateful, as he ran beside me, doing better on his leash than ever before.
wow…i cried reading your story…it could be mine even
though i don’t have a dog…the sensitivity, humility, the
courage not to be ‘right” but to take responsibility for us
all…i’m touched and i thank you for sharing.
luv rupa
Tami – thank you for all you do – Your interviews have enriched my life – thank you to all the technicians or should I say magicians? at ST too. Dena
This brings something vital into my awareness. It is so easy to focus on other things, such as what is wrong with this or that or her or him.. but this is such a nice practice.. Seeing love under the surface. It really is there in the smallest of actions – the clerk that is patient with my fumbling in the purse, the driver who lets me in line, the person who smiles at me for no reason, the strangers who stopped to help me when my car died, the attention and comments fm Facebook comrades, and on and on.. Also, the practice could expand to being love in the smallest of ways in my daily rounds.. You really have me reflecting here.. Thanks..
Oh Tami, I know exactly what you are talking about. I have felt the same thing recently. If you were here right now, I would hug you!
Tami, sounds like your heart is open, aware and resonating with love. Love to you for your work to bring words of awareness and love to others <3.
Tami, Thank you for sharing your insight. I often have the same sort of feelings. Like I need to share an outpouring of love to another, yet I hold back for fear that it would be misinterpreted. It’s truly saddening to me that our society has become so fearful of sharing acts of loving kindness.
Thank you Tami–I really resonated with what you shared and have had similiar experiences of love but held back expressing it for fear of it being misinterpreted as inappropriate, when it was truly a heartfelt love and appreciation of how we are connected in this human experience. I appreciate your sharing…..and love you! 🙂
aloha tami, i love that i stumbled across your blog while cruising around
Sounds True….just the sound of your voice introducing speakers always
brings deep sense of respect and love. i too feel what you share. a few
months ago i had a dinner party to celebrate my 60th and there was so
much love at that party i remember feeling that my body could hardly
contain it. at the moment i am listening to carolyn myess and she talks
of how much our need to be in social contact….i suppose the more the
more possibility to convey our amazing connection and to speak or show
our love that sits just under the surface waiting to spill forth. i too am
sending an astral hug. sooooooo much love rupa
Dear Tami, I have often wondered whether the utter respect and wonder for humanity I hear in your voice is consciously produced.Reading your blog now I know its not. I am listening to ” The Acceptance Project”(Thank you for it) and your interaction with the presenters for me is as useful as their input. To me you are the Maria Callas of the spoken word. Your intellect and courageous generosity in sharing that with the world is beautiful.
I hear what you are saying about secret love. Dr Martinez made me realize that for some people what for some may be a display or sharing of affection for them it is toxic. My sense is that because you are so sensitive you are picking up on it and appropriately holding back. May I refer you to the work of Dr Elaine N Aron a researcher on “The Highly Sensitive Person”. She has done research on areas that Dr CPE turns into stories and poetry. I have a fantasy of having you, Dr CPE and Dr Martinez for dinner with Carolyn Myss joining us for Coffee. May God Bless you and keep you. You are precious.
Tami,
This is beautiful! I agree with you totally.