Putting Your Relationship First: Lessons from Your Brain on Love, Part 2

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July 16, 2013

Putting Your Relationship First: Lessons from Your Brain on Love, Part 2

Dr. Stan Tatkin July 16, 2013

In the second half of their conversation about Your Brain on Love, Tami Simon and Stan Tatkin explore how two nervous systems get along in relationship and what it might look like to fight well in times of conflict. Discover how either party can wave a flag of friendliness during a fight, core skills and attitudes to get out of any argument in five minutes or less, and the importance of making connections we can count on no matter what. (68 minutes)

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