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Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. is a therapist and educator with over 25 years of experience working with couples and singles seeking intimate partners. A former professor at Perkins School of Theology, Southern Methodist University, he hold a Ph.D. in Psychology and Religion from the Divinity School, University of Chicago. His books include Getting the Love You Want; Keeping the Love You Find; and the Couples Companion; co-authored with his wife, Helen Hunt, M.A. They have six children and live on a ranch in New Mexico. Visit Harville's website at www.gettingtheloveyouwant.com.

Listen to Tami Simon's interview with Harville Hendrix: Relationships, the Brain, and Zero Negativity

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Relationships, the Brain, and Zero Negativity

Harville Hendrix — June 28, 2011

Tami Simon speaks with Harville Hendrix, a therapist and educator with over three decades of experience working with couples and singles seeking intimate partners. The cofounder of the Institute for Imago Relationship therapy with his wife Helen, Dr. Hendrix has authored and coauthored a number of influential books on relationship psychology including Getting the Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find, as well as the six-CD Sounds True audio learning course, Finding and Keeping Love. In this episode, Tami speaks with Harville about a biological explanation for the notion that opposites attract, what it might mean to recognize “otherness” in relationship, and the value of creating a relationship that is without judgment, or “living with zero negativity.” (57 minutes)

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