Asking for Higher Help
UNEDITED TRANSCRIPT: The following transcript may contain typographical errors or other mistakes due to inconsistencies in audio quality, background noise, or other factors. We cannot guarantee its precision or completeness. We encourage you to use this as a supplement to your own notes and recollection of the session.
Tami Simon: Hello, friends. My name’s Tami Simon and I’m the founder of Sounds True, and I want to welcome you to the Sounds True podcast, Insights at the Edge. I also want to take a moment to introduce you to Sounds True’s new membership community and digital platform. It’s called Sounds True One. Sounds True One features original, premium, transformational docuseries, community events, classes to start your day and relax in the evening, special weekly live shows including a video version of Insights at the Edge with an after show community question and answer session with featured guests. I hope you’ll come join us, explore, come have fun with us and connect with others. You can learn more at join.soundstrue.com.
I also want to take a moment and introduce you to the Sounds True Foundation, our nonprofit that creates equitable access to transformational tools and teachings. You can learn more at soundstruefoundation.org. And in advance, thank you for your support.
Hi, friends. Welcome. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, my guest is Tammy Mastroberte. Tammy is the author of the award-winning book, The Universe Is Talking to You. She’s also the author of a new Sounds True book. It’s called, The Higher Help Method: Stop Trying to Manifest and Let the Universe Guide You. Here we have a chance for Tami with an “i” to talk to Tammy, T-A-M-M-Y, about how to take very esoteric spiritual ideas—what Tammy Mastroberte calls the Higher Help Method—and present them in a way that’s accessible, practical—which is what Tammy’s great gift is. Here we go. Let’s talk about The Higher Help Method with Tammy Mastroberte. Tammy, welcome.
Tammy Mastroberte: Hi. Thank you so much for having me.
TS: Let’s start with what got you, Tammy with the Y, on the spiritual path in the first place in your life.
TM: Yes. So I grew up in the Catholic faith, and literally went to Catholic grammar school through eighth grade, so high school was a bit of a shock when I got there, and that was my spiritual background. But what shifted me and pushed me on the path that I’m on now was the sudden death of my mother when I was 22 years old, she was 53, from a brain aneurysm three days after Christmas, and it just threw me into a completely different place. I always say, I always find when you ask people, “What started you on your current path?” It’s usually, I say the three D’s, so a death, a divorce or a breakup of some kind, or a diagnosis. Often things fall under those categories, and so for me it was the death of my mother and it completely rocked my world and it threw me into, “Where is she? Can she see me? What’s going on? How did this happen? What is life really about? What am I even doing here?” Type of a thing.
And it was through the encouragement of my sister that we went to a medium, we went about 10 months after she died and it opened everything up for me. And being a Virgo and being a skeptic, I actually lied on everything that we sent to this medium because everything was done through mail. This was back in 1999, so this was before mediums were on TV and people were talking about the things that they’re talking about today. And so we lied on all of the paperwork so that when we got there we knew okay, he wouldn’t be able to know who we were, even our real names. And it completely changed everything for me. I walked out of that without a doubt knowing that my mother was there and that there was so much more to life than I realized, and that really sparked the whole thing to get me to where I am today.
TS: Well, let me ask you, Tammy, what happened during that reading? What happened?
TM: So he was amazing. From the first, the person we went to, I believe is still practicing today, his name was George Anderson. And I know we were meant to go to him because six months before my mother died, a friend of my sister’s brought a book in the house that he had written, and we had a whole discussion with my mother about this man. And after he died, he started showing up everywhere. My sister kept calling me, Lifetime TV did a special on him, Primetime TV did a special on him. He was showing up in New Jersey. It was incredible. So we were in the room, we still have the tape recording of it, and within the first three minutes he had me because the personality of my mother came through. My Italian mother just came through and he said things to me, there was no research even with the World Wide Web today, no research would have been able to get the information that he gave me.
And he said phrases that I had only thought in my head, never spoke aloud to anybody, and so I was just beyond convinced. And I’ll never forget at the end of that session, my mother was very dedicated to the Blessed Mother. Her mother was very dedicated, said the rosary every night. There were broken rosary beads next to her because she would fall asleep with them. And at the end of that session he came up to my sister and I and said, “Now I know why I bought this,” and he gave us things that were the Blessed Mother and he specifically said to my sister, “Your mother said you need more of this in your home. You need more of the Blessed Mother in your home.”
He’s like, often I would buy things and I don’t know why, but I know they’ll come up in a session, and I know this was meant for you. And so we just walked out of there completely floored and completely convinced that this was real. This man was speaking to not just my mother, but other relatives that came through, and me right away I was like, “I need to know more. I need to understand more.”
TS: So this is what started you on your path, and then how did you become changed, if you will, from that experience?
TM: I always say my mother taught me the truth about life after her death, and I think it was her death first that shot me on this path, and then I think I just knew from the depths of my soul that there was so much more. If my mother who had passed on was communicating, was proving that she was seeing things that I had… She was congratulating me on a job that I got after she passed away. She was talking about our birthday. She was bringing up incidents that she wasn’t here for but was proving that she had seen, that changed everything for me. And so it was one thing after another. I actually wound up discovering Wayne Dyer. Dr. Wayne Dyer was the first person in his book, The Power of Intention, and I discovered him by the way, after saying a prayer one night asking for help, and I woke up in the middle of the night and his PBS special was on and I ordered his book, so that was another turning point for me after I asked for help.
And I discovered Wayne Dyer, he actually, believe it or not, introduced me to Deepak Chopra and there was a Chopra Center in New York where I was working at the time. I was working in New York as a magazine editor. That’s where I decided to go to a perfect health retreat there. I learned formal meditation, and it was just one thing after another. It was once I opened up and I asked for the help and I was like, “I want to know more.” I was just led forward through these signs, through these synchronicities, through these experiences that just led me to where I was supposed to go next on my path and I was supposed to go next on my path, and I just kept opening up and everything just blossomed from there.
TS: Now, I want to go into this whole notion of asking for help. It’s such an important critical part of The Higher Help Method, but before we get there, I want to talk to that person who’s listening, who has lost a loved one that’s dear to them and, perhaps, they’ve gone to a medium, perhaps, they haven’t, and the experience though has been disappointing. Maybe they went and they didn’t have the kind of experience that you had. Of course, there are mediums of all different calibers and level of capacity. Maybe they thought, “Come on,” I don’t know. How can you address that person who hearing your story feels a lot of longing in their heart? “I wish I could feel that kind of contact with my lost loved one.”
TM: If someone has gone to a medium and didn’t have the experience that they wanted to have, I would say not to give up. I would say don’t just try one. Try at least one other one. Email me, I’ll give you recommendations for ones that I love. But I think for someone who is struggling to believe that their loved ones are around or struggling to have that connection, right? What gets me through still 20 plus years later is knowing my mother sees everything, knowing I can talk to her and knowing she sends me signs. And so what I would tell that person to do is ask your loved one who has passed on specifically to send you a sign. There’s an exercise that I teach people literally called assign a sign, where people who’ve never gotten a sign in their life have used this and it has worked.
People who get signs wind up getting more. And so what I would say to you is pick a sign that you would want your loved one to use to let you know they’re around. You can pick their name, you can pick a birthdate, you can pick a blue butterfly, you can pick a squirrel, you can pick anything that you want to pick, a red balloon in the sky. And I want you to call that loved one in and say, “Listen, I know that you’ve been sending me signs. This woman, Tammy that I heard has said that this is happening. I’m obviously missing them. Can you please use the sign of,” whatever that is, “and just use it within the next three days or so so that I know you’re around, and help me recognize that sign when it comes in, I promise to accept it.”
Because I find that a lot of times we talk ourselves out of signs, we reject the signs, so I just want you to promise to accept the sign that it comes as it comes through. And if you really are unsure, just ask them to do it again. Don’t say, “No, no, no, that wasn’t it,” and give up. Ask them to do it again. I have found that our loved ones are so wanting to get through to us, and if we just say, “Here, I’m going to give you this, can you use this?” They are on it, and now that is a sign that they will continue to use. And the way that I created this exercise for people is I realized I was doing this myself because I would hear my mother’s name or her birthdate, she uses her birthdate all the time, which is May 9th.
And I would go, “Oh, that’s my mother. Hi, mom,” right? “Thank you so much.” And she would go, “Oh, she got that, so I’m just going to use that sign again,” and she would use it again. This kind of cuts that out if you’re not getting the signs, this gives you that direct line and allows you to open yourself up and be aware of it. And again, if you get it and you question it, just ask for it again. But don’t be surprised if that then becomes the sign that they use over and over again for you.
TS: But I have to ask, Tammy, what if you put that out? And it’s not that you get it and you question it, but it’s that you don’t get it. Maybe you assigned a sign that was too hard for the universe to respond to. I don’t know. I want to hear my father’s name. It’s really unusual and it didn’t happen after three days, four days, five days.
TM: So there’s two things. Number one, I’ve had people say to me, “Tammy, I didn’t trust you. So I assigned the most ridiculous sign.” I had one woman use the theme song from Cats. Now, how often do you ever hear the theme song from Cats? And she’s like, I was like, “I’m going to use it.” She heard the theme song from Cats. She emailed me a long thing. She couldn’t believe it. I can’t believe it works. So whatever you give them, I promise you, they’ll find a way to get it through to you. What I have told people, if they say to me, “I didn’t get the sign, it’s been three days, four days, I didn’t get the sign.” If you are new to this, I promise you the sign came and we are so busy in our lives, there is so much chaos inside of us, around us.
Life is insane, and if you’re not used to slowing down a little bit and noticing the things, you’re going to miss it. I have missed signs and this is what I teach. So what I tell people is if the time has passed on and you’re like, “It’s been four days and I didn’t get that sign,” just say to them, “Listen, you might’ve sent it. I might’ve missed it. Can you do it again?” I have never had anybody do it again and come back to me and say, “I still didn’t get that sign.” Eventually they will get it, but you have to understand that life is crazy and signs are subtle and signs are happening in the present moment, and if you are distracted and you’re not in that present moment, you could very easily miss the sign, so just ask again.
TS: Okay. Now, you developed through your own inner work and in response to creating in your own life something that you call the Higher Help Method. Can you introduce us to it and how you created it?
TM: Yes. So what the Higher Help Method is, is a method that you can use to create positive changes and manifest to solve problems in your life, to make decisions in your life, to find solutions when you are struggling and can’t find a solution. And basically what it does is it allows you to partner and call on the universe for help so that you’re not doing it alone. I believe we were never meant to do anything in this world alone, to navigate our daily lives, to make decisions, to solve problems, to create change, to do anything. We are never alone. We have the entire universe and all of what I call higher helpers available to us to assist us with absolutely anything, whether you are trying to manifest something big or you just want a good parking spot at the grocery store during a rainstorm, we have higher helpers available to us.
And so what this method does is it allows you to tap into that, to ask for the help and to harness the energy, the amazing powerful energy of the universe around us for assistance. The way that I created it was, actually everything that I create really is from me struggling and saying, “How can I figure this out? How can I fix this? What can I do?” And it really started back, my gosh, probably in 2011 that I really started creating the method based on the fact that I was stuck in almost every area of my life. I was very unhappy. I had left a job to start a business and it wasn’t going exactly the way that I wanted it to go. It had been maybe about a year, and I wasn’t in a relationship. My health wasn’t great. There was so many things and I just thought, “I just want to focus. I just need to fix this business right now.”
And it was after a morning meditation that I just sat there and I said, “You know what? I’m going to do what my Catholic roots taught me and what my mother always taught me.” She would come in with prayer cards anytime I was struggling with something and tell me to call on St. Jude or call on Padre Pio or all these different people. And I said, “I’m just going to ask the universe for help because I can’t figure this out on my own anymore. I’m tired of figuring it out and it’s not working.” So I just said a prayer and I asked for help. I asked the universe to send me, I didn’t say to the universe, “Fix all my problems and bring me a ton of money.” I said to the universe, “Guide me, send me the signs, send me the ideas, send me the synchronicities to show me where to go and help me recognize them when they arrive.”
That was really the place I came from. And I said, “You know what? I’m just going to start saying this prayer every day.” Within a couple of weeks, all the things started lining up, all of the signs and the synchronistic experiences started lining up. And within, I would say, a couple of months, I wound up starting a online summit and it wound up bringing in more money than my business had ever brought in since it had started back in 2008, and I wound up meeting the perfect people who helped me create it, and everything just lined up and I thought, “Why did I not ask for help sooner?” And that was the culmination of me really starting to put the method together. I had been using all different tools throughout my life, but I think that was the first time that I said, “Wait a minute,” as soon as I stopped trying to do this alone, things just got so much easier and things just flowed in, and so that was really the start.
TS: Tammy, I want to confess for a moment that there is so much of me that feels open to everything you’re saying in this conversation, and there’s a part of me that has a skeptical voice inside. And if it’s okay with you, I’m going to give voice to that skeptical side.
TM: Sure.
TS: I’m sure you’ve heard it from so many people, but even when I hear a word manifest, the skeptical part of me has this response of, “Oh God, here’s people using spirituality one more time just to get the material goods that they want.”
TM: Right.
TS: And this has become a spiritual acquisition. And in your book, The Higher Help Method, towards the beginning, you had this quote, and I really loved this. You said, “A partnership with the universe is not asking it to be Santa Claus. Instead of, ‘Please, bring me what I want,’ say, ‘Please show me where I need to go.'” And this really helped me and it helped me feel in sync with you, and I wonder if you can share a bit the difference between saying, “Please bring me what I want,” and “please show me where I need to go.”
TM: Oh, yes. And it’s a huge difference because first of all, a lot of the times what we think we want is not necessarily what we need or what is necessarily in our highest good, just at that moment we think we want something. I tell people, go back to all of the people that you’ve dated in the past that you thought were the one, that you thought, “This is it. This is my person,” and it didn’t work out, and you were devastated. And then look where you are now. I mean, when I do that, “I’m like, thank you, thank you universe for getting me out of all of that.” So that’s the perfect example of what you think you want is not always what you need. But when it comes to asking for help, the whole Santa Claus thing is sometimes I think people approach prayer of, “Please just fix this. If you can just fix this and give me exactly what I want, I’ll do this and I’ll do that,” and they’ll bargain, and then there’s all this stuff, and it’s just like, “Please just bring me what I want.” That does not work.
We can’t just always have what we want. That’s where the putting the universe in charge comes in because when you put the universe in charge, who knows everything, who all of your higher helpers are like the ultimate psychic team. They see your road, they see you and how you would interact with other people to bring you together. So when you let go and say, “Listen, this is not Santa Claus. I’m not going to wake up the next morning and have exactly what I want under the tree.” This is, “Show me where I need to go. Show me the way for my highest good.”
I promise you that is always going to be amazing. It is always going to be oftentimes better than what you want. So when you’re asking the universe to create something in your life, to create a condition, to create a specific thing, you always want to go from, “Here’s what I want, guide me to this or something better,” and you have to have that surrender to something better so that you can get to a better place. If you are only focused on what you want, you are going to miss all the signs guiding you to something even better that your mind couldn’t conceive of from that place of, “I want this and I only want this.” So that’s where that putting the universe in the driver’s seat and say, “Show me where to go. Show me what’s in my highest good,” takes the pressure off of you and allows you to experience something that’s even more incredible, and then you’re not fighting, “No, no, no, this is what I want,” and ignoring all of the other stuff.
TS: Now, a couple of times you’ve mentioned this notion of higher helpers, and once again, I’m going to read from the book, “Imagine walking to a room filled with beings of light sitting around a big conference table, working together on only one thing, to help you solve problems and move forward towards your highest good in every area of your life.” And I noticed when I created this little visualization reading this, it felt so terrific to imagine that. And I thought, “I wonder if Tammy really thinks this is happening.”
TM: That’s how I picture it. So honestly, sometimes when I consult my own higher helpers or maybe I do some automatic writing or something, I really do picture them sitting around a conference table, these beings of light saying, “What can we do? How can we assist? How can we help you?” Always within my highest good. And so the way that I look at it is we all have individual higher helpers. Maybe you have individual guides, maybe you have individual angels who are working with you, but there are higher helpers that any of us can call on at any time. And so sometimes the way I look at it is like, well, you can have your regular board of directors, but maybe you’re working on a specific thing and you want to call somebody else in to consult, and so that’s the way that I look at it and think, “I have access to whatever higher helpers I would like to call on who specialize in the area that I am struggling with,” whether it’s money, whether it’s physical health, emotional health, a parenting issue, a relationship issue, a career issue.
Just like in this physical world, we have people who specialize in different things. You don’t call your car mechanic to work on the air conditioner in your house, and you’re certainly not going to call the chef to fix your car. So just like there are people that specialize in things in our physical world, there are specialized angels, ascended masters, gods, goddesses that can assist us in specific areas that we’re struggling with, and that’s what I teach people to do. Sometimes you’re going to work with somebody just for this instance, and sometimes you’re just going to work with a particular higher helper for a longer period of time because they’re assisting you in something bigger, but they’re all available and they all can be tapped into if you are a soul existing in a physical body here.
TS: In The Higher Help Method, you introduce lots of different types of higher helpers and you call them by name. I just want to give people a sense of who some of these higher helpers might be. Let’s say it is a relationship that I am wanting to ask the universe to bring me in my highest interest. This isn’t true for me. I feel the universe has already delivered that, but if this-
TM: Yes, we do.
TS: … was true for somebody, what kind of higher helper, who might you suggest?
TM: So if I’m trying to call in a new relationship, whether that be a soulmate, romantic relationship or even a friendship, I would call on Archangel Chamuel, he can help you find your love. He can help you find a job. He can help you find your purpose. He helps people find things. He also is great if you want to find new friendships. He has a twin flame called Archangel Charity, and that’s another one that I would call on. She’s very much around the heart chakra. There’s Greek God, Eros, who is amazing when it comes to love and even healing the heart chakra if you need to heal in certain instances. So I think those would probably be my top ones to basically say, and it is always the way that I say it is, “Please send me the ideas, the signs, the synchronicities, the opportunities, the resources that can assist me now.”
And then what happens is these higher helpers who can see you and maybe see who you’re meant to be with because it’s almost like you picture them looking down at the universe and saying, “Okay, here’s this person and here’s this person, and how are we going to get them together?” And so the universe then, and your higher helpers have to work to move all these puzzle pieces around to get you in the right place at the right time to meet this person. So I always use my husband as an example, especially when I talk about divine timing, is I actually did the ritual that is in The Higher Help Method book to meet my husband. In January, took a crock pot outside in the snow, burned the paper, did a whole thing, and I was like, I always tell him and his whole family that I manifested him in a crock pot in my backyard.
And so I did this whole ritual. I didn’t meet my husband until October of that year, but I put it out and I said, “I’m finally ready.” I was 37 years old. I’m like, “I should probably get on this.” So I said, “I’m finally ready.” Well, at the time, my husband was still married. He hadn’t gotten out of the relationship yet, and the timing wasn’t right. However, the universe knew by the time October came, he had dated a bunch of people. He was really a very different person at this point. He actually got to a point where he’s like, “I could just live alone the rest of my life.”
Well, that was the perfect time to bring us together, and the universe brought us together through a friend of mine and a friend of his who happened to work together. We’re talking at a work function and we’re like, “Oh, hey, I have a single friend,” and, “I have a single friend and let’s get them together.” And the universe arranged all of that when I asked for the help. But again, he wasn’t ready at the time. So it took eight, 10 months, whatever it was before that meeting came into place. But once you ask, the motion starts and the puzzle pieces start moving together, and that’s when these synchronistic perfect timing experiences start to line up and happen.
TS: Okay, so let’s say someone’s listening and they’re starting to feel an openness to actually do this, and some part of them is like, “I don’t know. I don’t know. I don’t know if I believe this. I don’t know. I don’t know.” How can you help them work with that part of them that is stuck in disbelief?
TM: Well, first of all, I would say, “It never hurts to try it. So if you don’t believe me, try it and see what happens. Just doing a quick ritual or just saying a prayer is not going to hurt anybody, just prove me wrong and try it.” But I would also say that what I find is I can tell all the most amazing stories, and I can have students and clients share and I share their amazing stories of using this. You have to see it in your own life to believe it. It’s the same thing with signs and synchronicity and how I tell people, “The universe is always guiding you. What you think is chaos, what you think is not working, what you think is a mess, the universe is guiding you and it has a hand in it, and it’s usually in the looking back that you can see it.”
So with this, I would say you have to find ways to prove it to yourself. So one of the things in addition to that, assign a sign, what I tell people to do is if you’re questioning it, if you’re thinking, especially if you’re someone who is like, “I did it and it’s been two months, and I’m looking at my watch and nothing is happening, I don’t think this is working.” That’s when I tell people, assign a sign for reassurance to your higher help team and give them a sign and say, “I just want to know that you’re hearing me, that I should still continue this, that I should still continue to say this prayer that things are happening behind the scenes.” Assign that sign of reassurance in the same way that you assigned a sign to a loved one. And then anytime you see that sign, you’re going to know that’s your higher helpers saying, “We’re still on it. Just keep going.”
I promise it’s going to get there. But what I would say to people, if you don’t believe that piece, that you are being guided, if you look back in your own life, the easiest thing would be look back to something horrible that happened to you that you thought at the time was a mistake that shouldn’t have happened. I can go back to my mother’s death, look back at that time and say to yourself, “Where did this lead me? What would not have happened had this not happened? What did I get from this? Where did I go?” And you will see that even these terrible things that happened in your life are leading you somewhere. So for me, my mother’s death opened me up. Now, would I still want my mother here? Of course, who wouldn’t? But would I be on the path that I’m on now?
Was that truly my destiny and that my mother was meant to pass when she passed, to lead me to where I am right now to be teaching the things that I’m teaching and fulfilling what I believe I’m meant to do here? So if you can start finding some of those connections in your own life and you can start realizing, “Wow, things are really happening for a reason, there really are no accidents,” that proof alone that you can see for yourself can then help you have a little more faith to just, “Let’s try this and see where it goes and see how it works.” Once you use the method and you see that it works, oh, forget it. You’re going to be like, “This is amazing,” and it’s going to even improve the method because you’ll have less resistance.
TS: It sounds like one of the obstacles or one of the places that trips people up is impatience, wanting things to happen our way on our timeline. Is that true?
TM: Oh, a hundred percent. Yes, it happens to me too. I’m like, “What is going on?” It’s like you just want to get on the phone with the universe and they’re like, “Is anybody hearing? Is this on, what’s happening? Because I’m sitting here and I see nothing.” That’s where that sign of reassurance comes in because sometimes things take time. Like I said, when I was trying to manifest my husband, he was still married. I certainly didn’t want to meet him then. I didn’t want to meet him until he was ready to meet me, and even though he got out of that relationship maybe a couple months after I did that ritual, he still wasn’t… I remember when we met, he’s like, “Thank God we didn’t meet sooner. Thank goodness that we are here now, because even if I would’ve met you a couple of months ago, I don’t think I’d be in the place that I’m in now,” and that is divine timing.
If you want, maybe there’s this perfect job for you and the universe is like, “Oh, this job is going to make her happy or make him happy when they get up every morning, and it’s going to pay them well, and this is going to maybe introduce them to someone who’s going to introduce them to their soulmate, and I can’t wait to get them there,” but somebody is still in that position and needs to leave before you can get into that position. That’s divine timing, and that’s where a little bit of that trust and surrender has to come in because the puzzle pieces need to be moved together.
There’s so many people that I’ve talked to who have said, “Oh, I finally made the decision to move to California, and that’s where I met the love of my life.” Well, maybe you were meant to move at that time and that person was meant to be there at that time, and that’s something we can’t predict. Again, you have to look back on your own life and realize how these connections have been made in the past for you which you didn’t realize, so that you can trust and have a little bit more certainty in that uncertainty that this is going to play out the way that it’s supposed to play out.
TS: So the Higher Help Method has four steps, four phases to it, and I want to make sure our listeners get all four of the steps, at least an overview understanding. We’ve talked a little bit about step one and step two, but I think we should just make sure that there’s clarity about that, and then we’re going to move into the step that I’m the most interested in and I need the most help with, which is step three. But step one is clarifying your intention, having clarity about your intention. Talk about how we do that in an overview kind of way.
TM: Yes. So basically you need to give the universe a jumping off point and you need to have an intention yourself because the power of intention is really what gets the energy moving, your focus and your intention. Because the way that we speak to the universe all the time, whether we’re conscious about it or not, is through our thoughts, our beliefs and our emotions. If you can get clear and get conscious about what you’re asking for, it does make a big difference. However, you want to always come from the place of, “Help me create this, or something more extraordinary.” Never be married to just exactly what you want, but the way that you get clear is simply, most people can tell you everything they hate about their current situation that they’re stuck in. They can make a whole list.
So I tell people, “Start there, what don’t you like about your job that you’re unhappy with or your money situation, or the relationship or lack of relationship?” Then you simply ask yourself, “What would I like to see or experience instead of that?” That’s your jumping off point, and it doesn’t have to be super-duper specific. In fact, I think it shouldn’t be super-duper specific because you need to leave room for the universe, but you need to have a jumping off point so that you can say, “I would like to experience X, Y and Z, or something more extraordinary that I’m not thinking about right now.”
TS: And you share in The Higher Help Method in the book that it’s also important to articulate for yourself the feeling that you want to have once this is in your life, and I think that’s a really important point.
TM: Yes. So there’s things that clarity is and clarity is not. And what I tell people is what clarity is is, “What would I like to experience? Why would I like to experience this and how will I feel when I experience it?” And that puts you into that state of, even that third question of, “How will I feel?” Helps you understand your why a little bit, and that gets you super clear. You can understand the feeling, that emotion… Remember, we speak to the universe through our thoughts, our beliefs, our emotions. So if you can engage all of that and put yourself into that place, it changes your vibration.
It changes what you’re throwing out there into the universe, and it helps you to be motivated to persevere and create what that is that you want, and to keep going until you get there. What clarity is not however, is knowing how something is going to happen, when something is going to happen and where something is going to happen, that you always have to leave to the universe because as soon as you start getting into the when or the how, or the where, your doubt is going to kick in, your brain is going to go on. You’re going to say, “That’s not possible,” or “how is that going to happen?” And you go into stress mode, not your business. That is the universe’s business. You just focus on what you want, why you want it and how you will feel, and then surrender the rest of the universe and say, “Take me to this, or something better.”
TS: Now, you mentioned using prayer in your own life when it came to asking for help, and when you go into the second step, ask the universe for help with higher helpers, you teach a five-step method for prayer. Can you quickly just introduce us to the five steps?
TM: Yes, it sounds long, but it takes minutes. So basically the five steps are, you’re going to call in what I call the collective. So I always start with, “Dear universe, I’m calling in my angels, guides, loved ones who have passed on, and all those in my soul society, which I call anybody on the other side that’s working with me, whether I know them or not, only those have the highest of vibration to be with me now.” That’s step one. Step two, you explain what you need help with. “I am struggling with X, Y and Z. I am looking to create A, B, C. Here’s the situation,” so that’s step two. You just explain to the universe, “Here’s where I’m at, here’s at where I am at, here’s why I’m calling you in.” The third step is you want to call in some of those specialized higher helpers, which in the book I list by category, all of them. I mean, I always tell people, “You choose who you resonate with.”
So there’s archangels, there’s gods, there’s goddesses, there’s ascended masters, there’s a very outside the box higher helpers. Like I tell people, “Call on JP Morgan if you’re trying to invest money.” So then you’re going to call in your specialized higher helpers. Then you are going to step four. You’re going to ask them, “Please send me the ideas, the signs, the synchronicities, the people, the conversations that I overhear, the resources that can help me with achieve this and help me recognize them and take action on them when they arrive.” The last step is you just thank them for their time and you thank them for the work you know they’re going to do, and that’s it.
So it’s a quick process that you can literally do anywhere. You can call in higher help as an intention every morning, you can call in higher help in the moment when something breaks in your house and you need to figure out how to fix it, you can go through this process super-duper quick. And even if you don’t know who to call in, you always start with the collective, and you can always just say, “I don’t have Tammy’s book, or I don’t know who this person is by me right now. So whoever specializes in X, Y, and Z, can you assist me?”
TS: Let me ask you a question about this whole notion of higher helpers. Do you think of these beings as beings that are living in multidimensional space, presences, they have their own existence separate from you, outside of you, or do you think of them as energies, if you will, that are part of the collective unconscious that you’re tapping into in some way? They’re actually… How do you understand these higher helpers?
TM: Yeah, so I think both. I think in some instances they are souls that have once lived in this physical world and have gone back to where we all are going to go back to at some point. But I also think that their energies. So that’s why I believe whether you are Buddhist, whether you are practicing a specific, maybe the Hindu religion, maybe you’re Catholic like I was or Protestant or whatever your belief system that maybe you grew up with is, you can call on any of them because their energy is all connected. We are connected to them. When our soul leaves this body, I believe we are going to go back and we’re all going to be connected and we’re all going to be one. I remember years ago when I did go to George Anderson, he would say to me, “I have energies show up, and they take the form of the belief system of the person sitting in front of me, so if you are Catholic, I might have Mother Mary. If you are a Buddhist, I might have Buddha come in, or I might have someone else from that.”
He’s like, but it’s just energy that shows up and takes the form of what you believe in. And so I believe we can call on any of it, and it is energy that we can tap into and they are available. And because we don’t fully understand this multidimensional, we can all call on them and they can assist all of us at the same time. They can be with me and you at the same time. I believe my mother can be with me and my sister at the same time because it’s not the same as when we’re in this physical body.
TS: And how do you think your Catholic upbringing has informed how you view this?
TM: I think it very much informed my way that I approach this because I grew up with, when you have a problem, you call on a specific higher helper. So when I was growing up, if we lost something, our keys, the phone, a paper, we would call on St. Anthony because St. Anthony is the finder of lost things. So we would say, “Dear St. Anthony, please come around. Something is lost and has to be found.” And so my mother, when I grew up and was having a problem with something in my life, she would bring me a St. Jude prayer card who was the saint of hopeless cases, and she would say, “He can help. He intervenes when a situation seems hopeless.” Padre Pio was very good with stress, and he was known in the Catholic faith, she many times have brought me that prayer card.
So I think I grew up with this belief that there were specific helpers who could assist me in certain situations in my life, and so that definitely plays a role, I think, in this. Having gone beyond my Catholic roots and opened myself up to more of a spiritual perspective and outside of that religion, that is why I call on Hindu goddesses and gods. I call on anybody because I don’t believe that I can only call on these Catholic saints, and I don’t believe that you, whoever is listening has to be Catholic to call on one of these saints. And so I think the roots of my Catholicism, even in the rituals that I do, some of the rituals in the book I’ll have you do for nine days, that comes from my Catholic faith of the Novena, which was nine days. So there’s definitely roots of it in there.
But as I’ve expanded, I have added in all of these other higher helpers, and I believe anybody can call on them, and I put them all in the book because I want people to, you call on who resonates with you. You don’t have to call on somebody I’m telling you to call on because there’s lists and you call on who resonates with you. But definitely, and I don’t believe that was an accident either, that I wound up growing up in that faith, which really has a piece of that within everything that I do, and there’s still a piece of what I grew up with that I believe in. It’s just a very expanded view of it.
TS: Now, as I mentioned, it’s step three that I really want to get into. We’ve clarified our intention, okay. We’ve asked for help, asked for higher help. Step three, shift your energy when you move into doubt, skepticism, negativity, “This isn’t working.” You’ve shared some ideas about how to do it, but I was very interested in this mindset shift prayer that you offer where we call on a specific archangel, an archangel that I’d never heard of, Jophiel. Am I saying that correctly?
TM: Yes. Yes, Jophiel. So what I love about Jophiel, and I will do this in the moment wherever I am, if I feel myself like aggravated, annoyed, worried, anxious, stressed, overwhelmed, Archangel Jophiel is the angel of beauty. And what you can call on Archangel Jophiel is to actually shift your mindset from negative to positive to help you see the beauty instead of seeing what’s going wrong, “Help me focus on what is going right in my life so that I can shift myself out of this space that I’m in, and please help me hold more positive thoughts as I move throughout the day.”
I usually use this in the moment when I am finding myself needing a mindset shift. It has never failed. It is at the point now where I say it and I immediately feel alleviated of some of it, and it takes seconds to do. You just have to stop and say, “Please help me shift my mindset. I’m going down the wrong path. I’m going down the stress. I’m focusing on what’s going wrong instead of what’s going right, and that is not where I want to be.” So I keep that archangel very busy.
TS: Can you share more about Archangel Jophiel since this is my first introduction and I want to get really close?
TM: Yeah. I mean, it’s just Archangel Jophiel is really very, very focused on the beauty around you and very focused on helping you to see that beauty. And what I love about it is we as people tend to look at what is going wrong, we are wired that way. We are wired that way, we’re taught that way, but also our brains are just wired to look out for what we need, what might go wrong. And so we have a tendency to do that, and that takes us away from being in the present moment because if you are looking at what’s going wrong, I guarantee you, you’re regretting something you did in the past or you’re worrying about something in the future. You’re not in the present moment. You’re not going to notice the signs and you’re depleting your energy.
Archangel Jophiel, because that’s the angel of beauty, focuses you and helps you bring yourself back into, “Let me just stop and smell the roses. Let me stop and relax. Let me stop and look at what’s going right. Help me shift my mindset. Help me stop this negative train of thought,” because that’s what happens is one thing we will set our brain off and then we start spiraling into everything that’s going wrong or, “Why isn’t, I’m never going to be able to figure this out,” or whatever it might be. This archangel will instantly help you to stop that and to say, “No, you’re going to be all right. Everything’s going to be okay.”
I love the mantra, “All is well. I am safe. All is well. I am safe,” and so if you can shift yourself into that and start noticing what’s going right, “Oh, wait a minute. Yeah, maybe there’s a couple of things that I’m not sure about, or maybe something happened that wasn’t great, but I know there’s stuff going right in my life, so let me just stop and focus on that for a second.” You’ve completely shifted yourself into another realm, and that’s what I love Archangel Jophiel for, is to help you notice the beauty that is always around us, we’re just not paying attention to it.
TS: With an Archangel like Jophiel, do you see the Archangel? Is there an image that comes for you of some kind, or no, you just notice the quality and the impact.
TM: For me, I usually, anytime I call on any of them, I mean, sometimes I have certain images in my head, but I think for me, I notice the energy shift. I notice the feeling that comes from it, and there are Archangels that you can call on for healing. Archangel Chamuel, I mentioned him for specifically to call in help for if you’re looking for a partner or if you’re looking for new friendships, but he’s also amazing to calm anxiety. So I notice a shift in my energy when I call them in, and I know it’s because their energy is now affecting me, is now around me and is now shifting me.
And so it’s the same thing, like I said, with him or Jophiel, or if you’re looking for, whenever I call an Archangel Raphael for any kind of healing, I immediately feel like a burden has been lifted because I know he’s on it. So when you start connecting with these beings and you start really creating relationships with them and partnerships with them, you start noticing how they, and it could be different for everyone, but you start noticing the effects that they have on you, especially your energy and your physical being, which is super important as we’re walking through life.
TS: Step four of the Higher Help Method, receive and act, big emphasis on action. Talk to me about this fourth step.
TM: Yes. So receiving is noticing the signs. And if you are shifting your energy, and I give a lot of different ways to quickly shift your energy throughout the day so that you’re back in the present moment, so you’re not in the past, in the future, and the signs are happening in the present. If you’re working on that shifting your energy, you’re going to be more open to receiving the signs to overhearing that conversation in line at the Starbucks, to noticing the fact that a name of a book has come up three times in three weeks, “Why do I keep hearing the name of this book or the name of this healing modality?” So you’ll be more open to receiving, and I go into a little bit about how the universe answers us.
But the action piece is one of the most important because if you do not take action on the ideas that pop into your head and you start doing the research and you start taking action on the sign on that conversation that you overheard, on the name of that book or the name of a healing modality, that has come across your radar three, four times, if you don’t take the action, you’re stopping the whole process because now the universe can’t continue to guide you forward, because if you have to take the step and now the universe can drop the next sign or the next breadcrumb, and then you can take the step and then the universe drops the next breadcrumb. What I find is people get so paralyzed with fear of taking the wrong action, “What if I make the wrong move? What if I do the wrong thing? What if it makes things worse? What if I leave this job and the next job is horrendous?” And so they do thing.
You have to take action, and I promise you what I have found for myself, and in many people that have used this method, my students, my clients, they say to me, “You really cannot mess this up. You can’t take a wrong action because the universe is constantly redirecting you. Just like the GPS in your car will say, ‘Rerouting, now you have to go left because you accidentally went right, and let’s get you back on the road,’ the universe does the same thing, but it can’t redirect you if you’re standing still. You have to take the step. And if you go to path A and you were supposed to go to path B, the universe will put a roadblock up on path A so you have to turn.” It works for you in that way when it’s working with you, but it needs you to take the step so that it can continue to direct you even if it’s the wrong step, and it has to reroute you.
TS: So we don’t relate to the universe like it’s Santa Claus, instead there’s this very engaged, I would say, conversation. You use the word partnership. There’s this engaged relationship. I’m curious to understand more how you see it, how you see this partnership. What’s the universe’s dream for us in our partnership?
TM: So the way that I see it is, I believe before we decided to come and incarnate into the bodies that we’re in, I believe that we knew we had this support available to us. I think we are all here with a individual, but also a collective purpose. The collective purpose would be to learn, to grow, to learn to love, to learn to forgive, all of those basic things, to learn to be in relation with one another, and then we might also have individual purposes. I believe part of my purpose is to learn these tools and teach them to other people so that they can improve their lives. I believe that with all my heart. And so I think that we know we have this partnership and we have this available to us, and so the way that we work with it and the way that it works with us is it’s helping us to navigate our lives with more ease, with more joy, with less stress, with more flow, so that we can do what it is that we came here to do.
Again, whether that’s that collective piece of learning and growing and helping one another. Even somebody that hurts you in some way is helping you because they’re helping you to grow, so there’s that whole collective piece, but then there’s those individual pieces of maybe what we are doing to impact the world or to impact those around us. And this higher help team is there to assist us so that we can live this out, so that we can do what we came here to do, and we all have it available.
And so it’s literally like that board of directors that’s available that we can tap into at any point throughout the day, at any point throughout our lives, that can provide this assistance to just make everything easier so that we stop trying to do everything and figure everything out by ourselves, whether it’s manifesting, whether it’s solving a problem, creating some type of a change, whatever it might be. We were never meant to do it alone. We have this huge, amazing, all-knowing, all powerful energy and resources available to us to help us live in an easier, more purposeful way and get us where we’re meant to go.
TS: So Tammy, I just have one final question for you. Our conversation’s really been focusing on individual change, individual creation, and I think when a lot of people look around at this time in human history, there’s a cry inside for the world to look different, for the way we collaborate with each other, for the way nations get along with each other or don’t get along with each other to look different. And I wonder, what do you think is going on from the universe to human level? Do you see some type of conscious evolution wanting to happen at this time through the pain and struggle that we’re going through, what do you have to say to people about how they can use The Higher Help Method at this junction in human evolution?
TM: I definitely believe that, see, I believe everything is happening with a purpose, whether it’s in our own lives, whether it’s in a collective. If you are aware of it, there’s a purpose for you to even become aware of something because it’s assisting you in some way. But I do think that yes, all of the things that are happening, even if you go back to 2020 with COVID and everything that happened there, it was all meant to open us up, to raise us up, to help us become aware of this spiritual nature that we can all tap into. It’s really meant to wake us up. Even in your own life, your individual pain is often meant to wake you up to something greater, which is why I said in the beginning, death, divorce, diagnosis is often what sparks the spiritual path, it’s often what opens you up.
And so when it comes to either you individually dealing with everything that is going on, you can call in help for yourself, for your own emotional wellbeing, for your own state, to be able to handle everything that is going on. But you can also call in higher help for another person, for the collective. You can ask for the assistance. You can say, “Help me do my part. What can I do to assist in what is happening in the world? What can I do to shift my energy?” And you start with yourself, but you can call in higher helpers for other people. You can call in higher helpers for the collective, for a country who is struggling, for the individuals in that country who are struggling.
You certainly, we’ve been talking a lot about using it in our own life, but there are so many ways that we can use it to help an individual that we know or a large collective of people that we know. And you have the power to call in their higher helpers or call in collective higher helpers. And often when we feel, “Gosh, there’s nothing I can do to help this person, or there’s nothing I can do about this situation in another country or another place, and I feel helpless,” this is always something you can do to help.
TS: Tammy Mastroberte, you have a gift for talking about really esoteric things in a super practical and accessible way. Thank you so much.
TM: Oh, thank you so much for having me.
TS: Tammy Mastroberte, the author of the new book, The Higher Help Method: Stop Trying to Manifest and Let the Universe Guide You. Thank you so very much.
TM: Thank you.
TS: And if you’d like to watch Insights at the Edge on video and participate in the after show Q&A session with our guests, come join us on Sounds True One, a new membership community featuring award-winning original shows, live classes, community learning, guided meditations and more with the leading wisdom teachers of our time. Use promo code, PODCAST, to get your first month free. You can learn more at join.soundstrue.com. Sounds True, waking up the world.